out on your own

What a delightful surprise!  This winter, my dad- Bill Hession- was clearing out some old computer files, and he came across a song we recorded when I was 15 (in 2002).  It isn’t a great song, and clearly of the two of us, my sister Melody Page has much more of a musical talent, but it isn’t a bad song either.  And the lyrics are pretty great.  It’s like Younger Me knew some of what Today Me would be doing, and wrote this little message to herself.  Or maybe it means I’ve been destined for this Wandering Journey for some time now and the signs are just catching up to me.

Anyway, now forever enshrined on the internetz- “Out On Your Own” by…Me.

 

Here are the words, in case you can’t understand my teenage rock star voice:

OUT ON YOUR OWN

Out on your own

You’re never ever alone

What you get

In life’s

What you make of it

Don’t know where you’re going

Or where

Where you’ve come from

But that’s all the fun

You know

When all’s said and done

Can’t believe you got this far

Could it be you don’t know where to go?

Just take it slow

Out on your own

You’re never ever alone

What you get

in life’s

What you make of it

Don’t know who or what you are

But don’t worry cause

No one ever really does.

Just take a hold of it

What you see is what you get

Oh NO!

The biggest lie you ever meet

You control it!

How you live is your whole life

Don’t give it up without a fight

Just live it right

Out on your own

You’re never ever alone

What you get

in life’s

What you make of it

Make it good

You should

Do what you want to do

Don’t take crap from anyone

Make sure your life’s fun

How you live is your whole life

Don’t give it up without a fight

Just live it right

Out on your own

You’re never ever alone

Out on your own

Out on your own

Out on your own

 

my dirty adidas theory

I’ve spent a lot of time talking about my recent trip to Turkey, reminiscing about the adventures and the friends I met, sharing stories with loved ones who didn’t follow along here or who just want to hear the tales complete with my unique performances. But tonight I want to rein in the excitement and “1, 2, 3 Be Serious” for a moment because I’ve become aware of an interesting phenomenon that I’d really like to discuss.

I’m calling it my “Dirty Adidas Theory.”

Its the moment when every nation comes army crawling into the developed world, suppressed by heavy clouds of smog, weighted down by chains of factories along the waterfront, and beaten into submission by shipments of western products dropped like air bombs on a scattered populace, herded into the open arms of a brand new mall.

Sorry. Too poetic?

Let’s talk about Istanbul. Istanbul was once a beautiful city.  A thriving marketplace, at the crossroads of the east and the west.  Full of strange things and strange people.  They built beautiful palaces and mosques, they celebrated their Ottoman background and their long cultural history.

Now, Istanbul has let itself be influenced by western nations, like the artsy nerd type is pressured by the “cool kids” in the lunchroom.  Right now Istanbul is in that awkward pimply adolescent stage, where it can’t keep up with all the strange oils and smells oozing from its body.  Seriously.

In the beginning, non-westernized nations chug along fine. They have a system that works for them. They have local art, and culture, and cuisine.  They have a pretty balanced relationship with the environment.  Then the western clique rolls in, for whatever reason.  The non-westernized nation wants in.  Eventually the nation THINKS it has finished developing.  It has that sophomoric attitude of success. But what has really happened is this: industry and commercialism has caught up with the western world, but infrastructure hasn’t made the switch yet.  So they flounder along for years, without environmental policies or emission standards, without enough roads or reliable forms of public transportation, and without any means of cleaning up or processing the already released pollution.  But they do have all the most popular western brands, marked up even more than the absurd prices set in the west.  They have Nike, Adidas, Apple, Dior, McDonald’s, Coke, Coach. You name it, its there.

Their cities get dirtier.  Their beautiful stone buildings are covered with layers of black soot.  Their people scrounge around in the dirt and are scoffed at by clean “high bred” western tourists, who can’t understand why anyone would “choose to live in such filth;” not understanding that it was their need for the new Sony camera, iPhone, and L.L.Bean jacket that has forced the nation into this state.

Eventually the newly westernized nation looses their art and culture, much like the nerdy kid who puts away her paint brushes and violin in favor of a video game controller.  They import cheap Chinese imitations of their once beautiful arts, so that tourists can still feel like they’ve bought an appropriate souvenir; which they will wave like a victory flag in the faces of friends and family when they return home.   They develop versions of their traditional meals that are more palatable to the western tongue, a tongue drunk on processed sugars and “natural flavors.”

Why?! I scream. I wail.  Why must the west always win! Why is it western culture that always rises victoriously? When will we appreciate diversity, real chaotic diversity, diversity we yearn for and which inspires us to travel, diversity that we seem to squash at every moment whenever it tries to rise its head in defiance of the ever encroaching amorphous blob of western culture.

Sorry. Too poetic. Rein it in.

All I’m sayin’ is, strange cultures and historic traditions- I’m on your side.  Stay strong. Carry on.  And stay away from things that start with “i”.  It’s a slippery slope. Its like a gateway drug that will leave you lying on your broken sidewalk, gasping for air in a smog smothered world.

Here’s to individuality.

~Aeri

making the most of nothing at all

Apparently two weeks is the maximum amount of time a traveling fairy can spend at home before her wanderlust strikes up an irksome itch.  What was a fairy to do? I was still broke after the last trip, and didn’t really have all that much time to spare.  So to scratch that itch I went on a little trip, packed full of adventures.  The focus of this post will be “making the most of nothing at all.”

Step One: Find somewhere cheap to free to stay and some way cheap to free to get there.

I rounded up some friends, or rather A friend (say like Wayne in “Wayne’s World”, “I don’t even have A gun, let alone multiple guns, to necessitate a gun rack!”), and headed west. A little. About two hours west, into Berkeley Springs,  West Virginia, where my Dad owns a small farm house.  For the low low price of a tank of gas (round trip) for my new baby (yeah, so I might have jumped on the opportunity to get a beautiful 1984 BMW 3 series in AMAZING condition) Wyatt and I found ourselves heading away from the city and into the country on increasingly smaller and more wooded roads.

Meet Oberon, my 1984 318i

If you don’t have a relative with a farm house they’d be willing to lend you, check out sites like airbnb.com, or even craigslist.com for house swaps, or weekend rentals.  Often a rental on Airbnb will be much less than renting from a tourism rental agency, and if you can stumble upon a city-mouse/country-mouse house swap than all the better.

Step Two: Stock up on supplies

The farm house was a “barely better than the middle of nowhere” affair, and so with proper warning we stocked up ahead of time.  Chicken, broccoli, brown rice, beer, and wine and we were ready to get down to doing nothing.  The last 10 miles to the house became an amusing game of “There it is!”, and “No, that one’s definitely it!” until we finally saw the tell tale star light in the window.

Step Three: Make your own adventure

What did we do for the weekend? We cooked, we drank wine, we lit the pot-belly stove, we star gazed, we drank wine, we played board games (Stratego, thank you!), we read and napped like old people, we hiked around the property and collected more firewood, we drank wine, we hunted ghosts, we told stories, we debated the feasibility of being a hobo in Philadelphia living off of squirrels in Fairmont Park.

I am going to get in SO MUCH TROUBLE for posting this one!

When we ran out of things to do at the farm, we wandered back down into town.  There, we met more people who like to play make believe- Civil War Reenactors!  Of course, people in costume are right up my alley.  I was even offered a proposal! Thing sure do move quick in West Virginia. hehe.

Boys can play dress up too!

Wyatt asked, and sometimes I have to wonder too- what does this guy do during the week? With a beard like that it must be EPIC!

Feeling designly inspired by these guys, I popped in a new age shop in town to put up some Reincarnation Outfitters flyers. And wow did it go well! I’m gong back next week to show the owner samples.  The Aeri Rose Collection might be put in a STORE! A real live, real world store! Well…kinda real world.

Before we knew it, we had to leave our country retreat and return to the city. But with a little wine, a little imagination, and some good friends (friends you bring or friends you meet) you can turn any situation into an adventure.

Where will your next adventure take you?

$3,419.96

Yup. That’s the expense total.  On November 14, 2011 I set out to prove it was possible to travel leisurely and enjoyably for under $100 dollars a day.  This $100 a day budget was to include all transportation, lodging, food, tourism, and souvenir expenses.  Absolutely EVERYTHING.  Those of you who followed the whole trip will know, sometimes it was tough.  The average daily allowance fluctuated between the high of $100 and a low of $54.47.  Sometimes I was over budget. Sometimes I was under budget.  But not once did I pass up a tasty treat, pretty trinket, or chance for an added adventure.

I kept a tight record of my travel expenses, down to every 2 TL metro ride in Istanbul, and 5 Dinar glass of orange juice in Marrakesh.  Sometimes I felt miserly, but mostly I felt intrigued.  Would the average work out in the end? Would I come in under budget?  That Thing That Sucked Me In sucked pretty hard in Goreme, Turkey, when I bought over $300 worth of hand thrown and hand painted pottery (that included shipping, promise!).

But, I am happy to say, I DID come home under budget.  The total spent was $3,419.96.  A full $280.04 under the goal of $3,700 for a 37 day trip.  Wahoo!!!

So, what did I end up spending that money on?

- $1,590.87 was spent on transportation.  Planes, Trains (and Metros/Trams), Buses, Boats, and Camels. Still no hot air balloon though.

- $321.64 was spent on lodging.  Hostels mostly.

- $459.87 was spent on food.  This included meals, grocery store trips, snacks, and water.

- $266.64 was spent on other touristy things.  Things like museum entrance fees, my Sahara Tour, and tips for henna done by the little old ladies in Morocco.

- $780.95 was spent on souvenirs. So I like new trinkets.  I’ll say it, and I’m sure others have said it- when traveling, go ahead an splurge a little on those strange and unique things that call you in.  What are the chances you’ll be back a second time to pick it up later? Pretty slim, I’d say, so go ahead and enjoy the shopping experience.

And of course, the souvenir budget wasn’t necessary for survival, so I could have skated in almost $1,000 under budget if I wasn’t such a sucker for the rare and hand made.

Needless to say, I was pretty pleased with myself for making it home with cash to spare.  So pleased, in fact, that I decided to spend the remaining funds on a weekend trip to Philadelphia, to visit with some old friends.  I managed to squeeze that trip out for $290; which included gas ($65), theater tickets ($56), a hotel room in center city ($89), food ($50), and a night at the bars ($30).  Getting to reconnect with college friends in a new Grown-Up way- Priceless.

Though I still think I prefer the $10 student rush fill in the front row tickets over the $56 with a terrible view tickets…

Well, now I’m back home and broke, a common enough state for an artistic fairy type. Stay tuned next month for a Great American Journey. A road trip to Arizona and the beginning of a most unique and exciting adventure- the Renaissance Circuit!

Westward Ho!

~Aeri Rose